The 40th comes around only once…
Won’t you celebrate with me.
Four decades of shaping my path, fine beautiful lines, creating the blueprint. Standing at this bridge between youth and wisdom, I invite you to celebrate with me.
Emerging as a woman of preservation, peace, and purpose.
Like stars illuminating the night sky, Like clay shaped with loving hands, I invite you to celebrate 40 years of life, love, and journey.
The 40th
A Three Day Celebration
October 17-19, 2025 | Raleigh, NC
FRIDAY: PAMPER
"my one hand holding tight / my other hand"
Begin your weekend of celebration with self-care and relaxation.
Book your own self-care excursion at Victoria's favorite places. Enjoy a facial at Blue Water Spa, get your nails done at Mood Raleigh, or treat yourself to a pedicure at Foot Health Spa during the day!
Meet at Heights House in the evening for a celebratory toast.
Join us as we raise our glasses to forty years and new beginnings
won't you celebrate with me
what i have shaped into
a kind of life? i had no model.
born in babylon
SATURDAY: PARTY & PROSE
"come celebrate with me"
An evening dinner full of poetry, music, and joyful celebration
Time to shine together under the starlight
Attire Color Theme: Earth Tones
Invitees will receive a formal invitation by mail that includes the event's location.
both nonwhite and woman
what did i see to be except myself?
i made it up
SUNDAY: HOUSE PARTY AT THE NIGGERATTI MANOR featuring THE BOOZY BALCONY BRUNCH
"here on this bridge between starshine and clay"
House Party featuring Kitchen DJ
The Boozy Balcony Brunch
Dance, Vibes, Party
Must R.S.V.P. for home address
here on this bridge between
starshine and clay,
my one hand holding tight
my other hand;
LODGING
"what i have shaped into a kind of life"
Our Friday gathering spot
This is a historic boutique hotel in downtown Raleigh
Luxurious rooms in a restored Italianate-style mansion
Reserve at heightshousenc.com
Heights House Hotel
Contemporary European-inspired design
Rooftop bar with city views
Walking distance to many attractions
Reserve at marriott.com
AC Marriot Downtown
Airbnb
come celebrate
with me that everyday
something has tried to kill me
and has failed.
-Lucille Clifton
FOR THE TRAVELERS
For those flying in to celebrate, Raleigh-Durham International Airport (RDU) is the closest airport, approximately 20 minutes from downtown Raleigh. Ride-shares, taxis, and rental cars are readily available at the terminal.